Tips for Writing Your Own Vows

From weddingspot.co.uk 25 10 2011 The wedding ceremony

Writing your own wedding vows is a romantic and personal gesture that your spouse will remember forever. Take a bit of time and follow some advice to get them spot on.

Nothing gets the waterworks going at a wedding as much as the part where the new couple say their vows, the more personal the better. It is a chance to express (in public) the way you really feel about your partner, why you are marrying him/her, why you love them so much you want to spend the rest of your life with them.

Even if you are not a natural writer you can be eloquent in your own way. Start by carving out some alone time where you will not be disturbed. Take large sheet of clean white paper and a pen (a few different colours would be good!). Now imagine your husband or bride to be... what attracted you to them? What are the qualities you most admire? How do you imagine the future together? Are there any funny anecdotes that you could mention? What are the adjectives you would use to describe him/her: funny, charming, kind, generous, supportive, creative...stubborn or bossy!

Brainstorm all these ideas, writing them down without judgement or style. When you have exhausted all you can think of have a look at what you wrote down. Choose 4 or 5 ideas that stand out above the rest and put them into a computer document. Also record the adjectives you though of.

Now you can either beef what you have out, making it sound good when read out loud, or, if you find it difficult to write, have a search on the web and look at sample wedding vows. Substitute the personal information you thought of for what they put, and you will have your personalised vows.

You could also find a poem, song lyrics or a saying that sums up how you feel. You could use this as part of the vows. If you have a sense of humour don't forget to use it, a joke here or there really warms the heart, even if people have tears in their eyes.

Now all you need to do is practice the vows until they become smooth and easy to say. It may be time consuming, but it really will make the difference to your partner on the big day.

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Tips for Writing Your Own Vows

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