Choosing the witnesses for your wedding can be tough. After all, you’ve probably got a few friends and family members that you want to sign your marriage register. However, you don’t want the number of witnesses to outweigh the number of people in your audience, so you’ll want to be mindful when making the call. If you’re having trouble deciding, we’ve got a few tips that’ll make the process a bit easier.
Here’s how to choose the witnesses for your wedding.
Kick things off with a bit of brainstorming
As with most of your wedding tasks, you’ll want to kick things off with a bit of brainstorming. Make a list of all the people you and your fiancé(e) hold near and dear; sisters, brothers, cousins, close friends and anyone who comes to mind when you think of your inner circle. Once you’ve figured out the “who”, you’ll want to work on the “why”. Jot down a few reasons why the person is special to the two of you beside their name. If one person has about forty reasons, they’re probably a frontrunner to be a witness.
Work as a team
Even if your partner has left you in charge of most of the planning, you’ll want to tackle this project together. Instead of going the route where you each pick a friend or relative and call it a day, choose your witnesses as a team. Keep in mind that the duo signing your documents should know and love both of you (not just one), so you should probably skip pals who have only met your fiancé(e) once or twice.
Pick the magic number
Here’s the thing, you can have as many witnesses as you want, but you shouldn’t go overboard. Both civil and religious ceremonies require two witnesses, but if you feel like three or four is the perfect number for you, go for it. Just be mindful of how many people you’re asking to be witnesses - you don’t want your wedding documents to resemble attendance sheets.
Don’t crack under pressure
It’s your wedding, so you make the rules. Yes, you might feel obligated to choose your sister or your godfather as a witness, but if you don’t want to, you definitely don’t have to. Just remember, not all of your loved ones will get the pleasure of signing your marriage register, and you’ll need to be sympathetic about it (after all, nobody likes to feel left out). Try to include your nearest and dearest in other facets of planning - give them a spot in your wedding party, invite them to scout venues with you or bring them along when you’re trying on gowns - so that they feel included in your big day, too.