We all know that getting married is a celebration of love that formalises your union. We spend a lot of time before the wedding sorting out the pre-wedding paperwork. However, we often don't look into the paperwork we'll need to take care of after the wedding. When you get back from the honeymoon and you settle in, it'll be time to think about the paperwork you'll need to update. This is why we're going to talk about changing your last name.
Whether you want to keep your last name and add his or simply drop your last name and use his, it's important to think seriously about this decision.
Think about it
Take some time to evaluate whether or not you want to take your new husband's last name. The important thing is to take your time and think of the implications of changing your last name.
There are some instances when changing your last name might not be the best idea. Professionally speaking, if you have a business or brand that have your name on it.
Additionally, you should like your new husband's last name, because it's going to be part of your identity forever. Write your proposed new name down on paper, observe how it feels to write it and notice how it looks. Just like when you tried on wedding dresses, you should begin to feel like this is right. Like everyone else, you'll have to get used to it, because you've spent your whole life with your current name.
Weigh the options
Some women decide to stick with their name because they're more comfortable with it. If that is your choice, then you don't need to do anything. You might want to notify your bank or any other entities that you are now a Mrs. However this is totally optional.
If you decide to hyphen your last name with his, usually the woman's last name goes first and is follow by his last name. This is called a double-barrelled surname. Of course, you can put the surnames in the order of your choice.
If you want the best of both worlds, you can use your maiden name, for example at work, and use your legal married name for everything else.
Once you've decided to go ahead and change your surname, you're ready to start the paper work and start informing everyone of your new change.
Who to inform
Here we mention the main entities you'll need to inform on your new married name, but of course you might have more than what is on this list.
- Your bank and credit card company
- Your utility providers, such as gas, water and electricity
- Your telephone, internet and mobile provider
- Your work - so they can update your bank details, contract details, etc.
- The tax office
- The local authorities, such as the electoral register
- The Department of Work and Pensions
- The Passport Office (apply for a name passport)
- The DVLA
- Your insurance companies
- Your doctors
- Your gym club
- Your subscriptions
- Your will, if you have one
Whatever decision you make, your husband should support you. Even though it is your decision, it's nice to include him when you evaluate whether to change your name or not. This way he feels included and it more likely to understand your decision if he was keen on you taking his name.